This is written with a mind set of a very normal middle class Indian girl who wants to have a life of her own. So please understand that my thoughts are not entirely based on my situation.
The word marriage goes on with different meaning... for a mother, it's missing her daughter, for a father, ts a responsibility reduced, for a friend, ts a best friend becoming just another friend and for a girl? I doubt if it just means stop living from your parent's salary and start living from your husbands. well i have heard many guys saying hey you girls don't have top bother even if you people don't get a job, you will be married away. I have never cared to raise my voice against it ever, I have always remained silent about it though partly doubting and partly thinking about the structure of our society. but today when i am about to do it, i know exactly what it means. so now i tell this to every guy who has ever told me those lines, no it is never easy for any woman as qualified as you are to just ask someone for her living, talking about parents, that is a habit we get from childhood, when even that becomes a problem after some time, how about a totally new person? Is it just that easy???
Having a job is not only the foundation stone of your self esteem but i believe it is the last word in your independence too.. It is everything including the respect you get in terms of a productive family member in terms of a knowledgeable decision maker, it is everything you can ever have for yourself, If you believe the satisfaction of seeing your kids grow up and become successful individuals is what you want in life and for that you would prefer to stay as a house- wife, i am asking you what will you do the day after your kids walk away from you? sit back and relax? enjoy your retirement from house work? is that what you want? and that is not when you grow old. Nowadays this situation comes right at the time when your kid leaves for college, from then on you are just a part of their life, not everything, it's their decisions from then on not and never your's. so at that point, is waiting at home for your husband to return from work is all what you want? i wonder...
How about the relations you have at work, the contacts you make, the people you meet, the life you can have??? saying no to all this just because you can't find enough time to manage family and work? please don't do that ladies, you are going to regret. again at the staring everything might seem perfect, but i don't need to tell you , that seldom is the case. what if one fine day, you are in a situation to take care of a family? where will you turn? what will you do? you are so used to depending upon others. so don't loose your strength to stand up for yourself. don't ever think having a job is the reason for all the problems your family is facing. no it on the other hand is a solution to many other issues your family is unaware of currently.
Go out, find a job, have a life that will always help you balance the other side from your family when it comes to it.
