About 15 days ago i gave birth to a baby boy. A cute boy who clings on to me nearly every waking moment. A beautiful feeling mixed with intense emotions that almost consumed every other person in my life. Any how, i pulled myself out of it and my life started getting normal again.
And i started listening to people around me their thoughts and their words. I could hear people congratulating me saying it's a boy. I could hear people saying oh you are lucky it's a boy. i didn't take it seriously at first. But then nearly everybody who came to see the baby made a remark to remind me how lucky i am that i have a baby boy. Not to offend anybody but i would like to remind all of you that only because i was a baby girl once that i was able to give birth to a baby boy now.
I was wondering what is wrong with our society, or even in such an educated and cultured environment why was i encountering a problem like this. I started thinking what could i do to change this. But then came the real blow. I heard it from my own parents. That was when i realised whatever i had to do i had to start from my own home. What could have i possibly done to make my own parents think that i was not enough or it was better if they had a boy.
A few hours of thinking into how me and my life turned out, i started realising it was not something i did rather it was the things i never did. When i couldn't stand up for me and other women around me, how could i expect anybody to believe it was good to have a girl.
In the last few years, there were moments when i had to agree silently when i heard people say we should not educate girls much because in the long run, all they had to do was take care of the family. I don't know what turned me into such a snob, may be the fact that i was not taking care of a serious career or that at some point, even i have felt that a masters degree in chemical engineering was an over qualification for a house wife. There were situations when i had to close my eyes to physical violence against women, there were people i knew i had to support but stayed quite just because i was scared to raise my voice.
Today if i don't fight for my respect and prove that i am enough, i am scared i can never teach my son to respect woman. If i am not strong enough, he will never believe that any woman he meets is as good as he is. So a word to every mother whether you have a son or a daughter, be strong show them you can be and will be strong. So that our boys learn to respect every woman they meet in their life and our girls recognise their true potential.
And i started listening to people around me their thoughts and their words. I could hear people congratulating me saying it's a boy. I could hear people saying oh you are lucky it's a boy. i didn't take it seriously at first. But then nearly everybody who came to see the baby made a remark to remind me how lucky i am that i have a baby boy. Not to offend anybody but i would like to remind all of you that only because i was a baby girl once that i was able to give birth to a baby boy now.
I was wondering what is wrong with our society, or even in such an educated and cultured environment why was i encountering a problem like this. I started thinking what could i do to change this. But then came the real blow. I heard it from my own parents. That was when i realised whatever i had to do i had to start from my own home. What could have i possibly done to make my own parents think that i was not enough or it was better if they had a boy.
A few hours of thinking into how me and my life turned out, i started realising it was not something i did rather it was the things i never did. When i couldn't stand up for me and other women around me, how could i expect anybody to believe it was good to have a girl.
In the last few years, there were moments when i had to agree silently when i heard people say we should not educate girls much because in the long run, all they had to do was take care of the family. I don't know what turned me into such a snob, may be the fact that i was not taking care of a serious career or that at some point, even i have felt that a masters degree in chemical engineering was an over qualification for a house wife. There were situations when i had to close my eyes to physical violence against women, there were people i knew i had to support but stayed quite just because i was scared to raise my voice.
Today if i don't fight for my respect and prove that i am enough, i am scared i can never teach my son to respect woman. If i am not strong enough, he will never believe that any woman he meets is as good as he is. So a word to every mother whether you have a son or a daughter, be strong show them you can be and will be strong. So that our boys learn to respect every woman they meet in their life and our girls recognise their true potential.
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ReplyDeletenice writings!! but manjari, if you had a baby girl, the society will comment like" ohh its a baby girl, baby is not fair, hair is less after all she is not ours etc. bla blas..." Our society wont change!! So better if you hear such comments, better block that at the same time!! sometimes it may help some other moms and baby...
ReplyDeleteOh...Simply..Superb...."It's from your Heart..and..it will touch many Hearts.."
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